Don’t Believe Everything You Think
“Don’t believe everything you think. Thoughts are just that – thoughts” – Allan Lokos, author
Most of us want a mindset that helps us feel good and helps us be productive, kind, helpful and just all-around awesome. But our mindsets are not always an environment of roses and fluffy clouds as we’d like them to be. This is often hard to be aware of and hard to change.
Think of the set in mindset. It’s rigid, stubborn …. it’s set.
Why does this happen? It’s a cumulation of past experiences, previous thoughts, relationships, what others have done and said (even as small children), what we’ve seen in the media and what the most important people in our lives have said or done that make up our current mindset. The beliefs, opinions and attitudes that make up our mindset are pretty much hard-wired in us but this hard-wiring can be changed.
There are so many ways to look at a situation, so many different ways to think about the things that happen to you and around you. Remember the story of Pollyanna? She saw the good in everything, even in the worst situations. The first step is to be aware of your thinking choices. We have around 50,000-70,000 thoughts a day and many of these are repeated and many not logical.
Cognitive bias, false assumptions, misinformation, ego and limited beliefs are just a few patterns of unhealthy thought that interfere with our judgement. With a rise in mental health issues worldwide, there are a lot of us out there with unhealthy thought patterns. One in 4 people worldwide are affected by a mental health disorder (1) and 4 million people in Australia are experiencing a Mental Health issues (2) with Tasmania ranking the highest for hospital admissions due to mental health issues.(3) Mental health can be a complex issue. Having awareness of whether you have a positive or negative mindset can be a help.
If you tell yourself you’re a failure, you believe you’ll never be good enough, you believe that people in the street look at you because they’re judging you, you believe you could never get to where you want to get to – you may want to start challenging these limiting beliefs.
Here are some tips for rewiring your brain to create a positive mindset – often referred to a ‘growth mindset:
- Use positive words instead of negative ones. Words create thoughts which create a feeling, so try and keep them positive.
- Be grateful. Research is showing us that a daily gratitude ritual makes us happier. Add the gratitude ritual on the Ritualize app and make a note of something you are thankful for each day.
- When talking or thinking about something you’d like to have or do, use aspirational and positive language, for example:
- Instead of “I can’t run 5km” you’d say “I can’t run 5km yet”
- I can’t run 5km yet/however I can go swimming more often.
- I’m not sleeping well YET but it’s something I’m working on.
- Be empathetic to others. We are often so entrenched in our own beliefs that we don’t see others points of view.
Taking control of your thoughts is the first step to a more positive and happier mindset. Listen to your thoughts before you react.